Fire Up Your Love Life With One Change
By Sana Ali.
Whether you have been together for a few months or for the last millennium, it is necessary to keep a spark in your relationship. Most marriages pay little to no attention to the idea of reigniting old sexual habits with some new fire. We agree, as time goes by some consistency simply feels familiar and comfortable in a relationship, but variation from the everyday routine is important to have more interesting sex.
Sex is an important part of romantic relationships. The magic is all too often broken when partners engage in this intimate act as mundane routine and without paying enough attention to actually enjoying it. We’ve all been there, the mind wanders from the unfolded laundry lying in the guest room, to the hellish list of to-dos piling up faster than the owls of Harry Potter bombarding mail into the Dursleys’ flap. Yup we know you can’t really enjoy the moment, and trust us it’s making your partner think things too. You aren’t committed enough, you are losing interest in them and not just sexually.
Here are some tips to electrify your relationship during your normal days and especially during the month of love!
Mindfullness for mind blowing sex.
It’s so important to take a few mindful and relaxing breadths before the deed, centre yourself by clenching and unclenching your arms, glutes and fists. Spend a moment with yourself in the bathroom to just spritz on some fragrance or apply some hand cream. These few mindful moments right before will allow you to be present fully during sex. It will lead your partner to believe and feel you’re listening to them, that you’re focused on them, that there’s nothing else but you and them in that moment. Not only will this make the experience much more satisfying, but it will also help you build trust and improve intimacy in the long-term.
Wetter is better! But not the kind of wet you are thinking.
Even if you have trouble getting naturally aroused, we feel a few minutes to moisturize and massage your face and body is a great way to get your juices flowing. Instead of using hardcore lubricants a very well oiled body reduces friction, slicks things up, and can spice things up quite nicely. Apply your favorite body lotion or natural oil with 1-2 drops of essential oils to your bodies together. Massaging each other can take your oral sex game up several levels, giving both of you a memorable evening that you will probably never forget… until next time, of course.
Drum Roll….. And for the one major change!
Make Getting in the Mood for Sex a Priority. Sometimes, having more and better sex simply requires clearing your schedule. We know it’s super hard to be in the mood when you have a million things on your to-do list and not much time to do it. Sounds so unromantic you think right? It is, but in this day and age you put most of your important plans in your calendar, so why not sex? It’s best to schedule enough time to do something relaxing. Try a few of the tips we gave you above before you dive straight into bed.